People used to run away from their comfortable surroundings to go “find themselves”. Does anyone do that anymore?
I agree that people often discover more about themselves when they struggle with conflict. You might default to a calm “fix the situation” attitude, or you might be caught off guard by the ugly anger that comes with your frustration. A new setting often provides the conflict that stirs up what's in you. Don't be surprised if something heroic comes out of you. If you love people, self-sacrifice isn't usually something you plan.
If you’re tempted to go off somewhere to find yourself, let me make a suggestion. Pick up a Bible and read about the one who designed you to be the way you are. Discover who you really are by finding yourself in Him.
Read more about this kind of personal journey at Seek God With Me.